When it comes to health, Aussie men are falling behind. The old-school mindset of “She’ll be right” might sound harmless, but it’s costing lives. According to Dr. Stuart Arbuckle, it’s time to break the silence and shift the narrative.

Men are less likely to see a GP

“Many Aussie blokes just don’t go to the doctor,” says Dr. Stuart. “Not for the sniffles, not for back pain, and certainly not to talk about their feelings.”

It’s more than just a stereotype. Data shows that men aged 20 to 60 are far less likely than women to visit their GP for mental health or preventative care. Even when they do show up, it’s often with a shrug and an excuse: “The wife made me come.”

“If your car makes a weird noise, you take it to the mechanic,” Dr. Stuart explains. “But if your brain makes a funny noise, most blokes just turn up the radio and hope it goes away.”

Ignoring early signs of mental or physical health issues can make problems harder to fix later. A yearly check-up could change everything.

Tailored Check-Ups

Medicare changes are shaking up how care is delivered, so many practices are now offering health “services” based on your needs.

“If you haven’t seen your GP in a while, you probably should. And if you don’t have a GP at all, that’s a big red flag,” says Dr. Stuart.

Some patients may need just a basic check-up. Others, especially those with risk factors or long gaps between visits, might need a more thorough review.

Depression Doesn’t Always Look Like Sadness

For men, mental health issues often don’t match the stereotype. Instead of tears, signs might include:

  • Snapping at loved ones
  • Withdrawing from hobbies
  • Drinking more
  • Obsessing over work or exercise
  • Saying things like “What’s the point?”

“Not every bloke with depression cries in the shower. Some of them just yell at the dog a bit more than usual.”

What Can a GP Actually Do?

A lot more than hand you a script. “If all your doctor does is give you pills, find a better GP. A good one will listen, ask questions, and tailor a plan to help you recover,” explains Dr. Stuart.

He also recommends finding a GP who has a special interest in mental health if your usual doctor doesn’t.

You’re Not Broken, You’re Getting Help

Talking to a GP isn’t a weakness. It’s strength.

“True strength is knowing when it’s okay to ask for help,” Dr. Stuart says. “Talking to someone means you’re taking charge of the problem.”

Life is tough. That doesn’t always mean you’re clinically depressed. However, if you’re unsure, consult your GP.

Prostate Health, Stress, and the “Manly” Taboo

Men often avoid talking about prostate issues, stress, waking up multiple times a night to pee or feeling constantly worn out. These are worth a chat with your doctor.

Worried about uncomfortable exams? “That’s what holds a lot of men back. But most of the time, those old-school tests aren’t even needed anymore.”

Faith, Friends, and Finding Your Fit

Community and faith can also play a role. “We often see people turn to their faith in hard times,” Dr. Stuart shares. “It’s part of the healing journey for many.”

As for social connection, it’s about what works for you. If you’re content being less social, that’s okay unless it’s a shift from who you used to be.

“If something’s changed and you’ve lost your spark, it’s time to check in,” he says.

Building Your Team

Whether it’s a GP, mate, pastor, or mental health professional, surround yourself with the right people.

“You’ve got to build the right team,” Dr. Stuart says. “If you do, you’re going to be rock solid.”

Lead by Example

Men often talk about leading by example for their kids. Dr. Stuart has a powerful reminder:

“Your kids aren’t watching to see how tough you are. They’re watching to see how you look after yourself so they’ll know how to look after themselves.”

So stop turning up the radio. Book the appointment. Ask for help. Because “she’ll be right” is no longer good enough.

Listen to Dr Stuart’s full conversation with Doug on Table Talk below.