Parents often ask, “Is it ADHD, too much screen time, or just daydreaming?” Natalie Nicholls, founder of PLECS Learning, believes the answer is more complex.

“Quite commonly, we’ve been told to look for ADHD or a problem,” Nicholls said. “We need to be really careful that we’re not just popping labels.”

She explained that children often show signs of inattentiveness simply because of their environment. “There’s only so much a kid can cope with at school,” she added.

Developing Brains, Different Expectations

Children’s brains are not miniature versions of adult brains. Nicholls reminded parents, “Their brain is still developing. One of the big things I always tell families is, you are still learning.”

Because the brain continues to develop into the twenties, forgetfulness or distraction often reflects growth, not laziness.

Anxiety, Motivation, and Memory

Attention challenges often link to three key factors: motivation, anxiety, and working memory.

“When kids seem inattentive, sometimes it’s actually weak working memory,” Nicholls explained. “We have to be very careful about where we’re looking.”

Anxiety can also hijack focus. “Kids with underlying worry are always on high alert,” she said.

The Role of Screens

Screens add another challenge. Fast-paced apps, games, and videos condition young brains to expect constant change.

Nicholls warned, “We are the test generation. If our kids are stuck on these devices, could that also be one of those symptoms that is showing up as attention problems?”

To rebuild focus, children need calm and time away from overstimulation. Nicholls encouraged families to get outdoors. “It is very important that we allow our children to be free,” she said. “Nature calms the nervous system.”

What Parents Can Control

Nicholls highlighted three practical steps:

  • Prioritise sleep.
  • Improve nutrition.
  • Create calmer environments.

“Remember,” she said, “as parents, when we are calm, our children’s nervous systems will eventually start to develop and adopt the calm.”

A Balanced Perspective

Nicholls reminded families to keep expectations realistic. “We can’t control a child’s developmental timetable,” she said. “They are children. We need to treat them with love, care, and calm connection.”

Listen to Natalie’s full conversation with Doug on Table Talk below.