This week, Pastor Phil from Kingdomcity Church wanted to highlight widespread loneliness in modern culture. “Loneliness is a huge thing in modern culture…there is a lot of loneliness in our community,” he remarked. In Australia, 50% of people feel lonely at least one day a week, and 20% report having no one to talk to.
The Issue of Loneliness
One reason for increased loneliness is how our homes are designed. Automatic roller doors and secure entrances mean we often don’t see our neighbours. “You literally get out of your car inside your house, and you never see anyone on the street,” Pastor Phil noted.
This lack of interaction can impact both physical and mental health. Research from Oxford University shows that isolation increases the risk of heart disease and stroke by about 30%. Pastor Phil stressed, “It’s incredible the impact loneliness or isolation has on the body.“
Loneliness can exist even in marriages. Pastor Phil explained that poor communication, lack of physical intimacy, and unsafe environments can lead to loneliness within a marriage. This isolation can negatively impact children, modelling a culture of disconnect.
Finding Meaningful Connections
Pastor Phil shared his personal experience, emphasising the importance of a relationship with God. He quoted Psalm 23:4, “I will fear no evil, for you are with me.” He also advised couples to create “unpressurised time together” to strengthen their bond.
For parents with young children, finding time to connect can be challenging. Pastor Phil suggested turning tasks into quality time. He and his wife would go shopping together, making it a fun, shared experience. “Rather than just one of us doing the shopping, we did it together and made it fun,” he said.
Pastor Phil’s insights remind us of the importance of connection in combating loneliness. Whether through community programs or personal relationships, taking steps to connect can improve our well-being.
Listen to Pastor Phil’s full conversation with Bec and Norm!