Bullying in schools is a significant concern for many parents as it can affect children emotionally and academically. “Bullying is an epidemic,” said Principal Craig Hunter, from Kalamunda Christian School. Shockingly, Australia ranks second in the OECD world for bullying, just behind Latvia. Research indicates that 32% of kids in Year 5 and 29% of kids in Year 8 experience regular bullying.

Conflict vs Bullying

Understanding the difference between conflict and bullying is vital. Craig explained, “Conflict is disagreement or different opinions, and it happens everywhere.” In contrast, bullying involves a power imbalance, is repeated, and causes harm. Recognising this distinction can help parents respond appropriately. If parents suspect their child is being bullied, Craig advised, “Make sure it’s bullying and not conflict. Then, step in and help your child.“

The Role of Parents

Parents play a pivotal role in fostering a supportive and loving environment for their children. “Kindness should start at home,” Craig emphasised. Teaching kindness, respect, and compassion is essential in preventing bullying.

  1. Empower your kids to stand up against bullying: 85% of bullying situations have bystanders. Both parents and schools must equip children to seek help and support their friends in such situations.
  2. Address bullying behaviour: Parents also need to address their child’s behavior if they are the bully. It’s crucial for schools and parents to work together to help bullies understand the impact of their actions and make better choices.
  3. Build resilience and open communication: Craig advised parents to model resilience and open communication at home. Encourage positive conversations about school experiences and teach kids to handle conflict constructively.

School Support Systems

Schools have various support systems in place, such as chaplains, counselors, and buddy systems. Craig shared, “Grade six students buddy with grade ones to help create a supportive environment.” These measures help build trust and resolve conflicts before they escalate into bullying. Craig also advocated for restorative practices. “How do we restore relationships, not just punish?” He believes in helping both the bully and the victim heal and learn from the experience.

Stories of Hope

Craig shares the inspiring story of Nicola Olyslagers, who was bullied for her height but channeled that negativity into becoming a successful high jumper. He emphasised, “There’s always hope. Help your kids through challenges, and there is a way through.”

Bullying is a complex issue that requires cooperation between parents, schools, and the community. Craig Hunter’s insights remind us of the importance of fostering a supportive environment both at home and in school. By working together, we can help our children navigate and overcome the challenges of bullying.

Listen to the full conversation below.