When we are young we look forward to getting older, planning birthday parties, baby teeth falling out, learning new skills and experiencing all sorts of cool things. Everyone is generally on the same path. But as we get older some people are tying the knot and having kids, while others are studying or making big moves in their careers. Suddenly everyone’s story starts to go in its own direction.

So how do you know you are on the right path? This can be particularly hard to figure out between ages twenty-five and thirty. At twenty-five it feels like you’re ‘halfway over the hill’. And by the time you hit thirty, you expect everything to be figured out, but more often than not, it’s still a work in progress.

So what can we do about it?

Notice your self-talk. Being in your thirties does not mean you are old! Change your focus to acknowledge not only your past accomplishments but also the things you want to achieve. 

Allow changes to happen and be thankful for adventures yet to come. You might naturally move away from jobs or social circles that don’t share your values. With age, you’re likely to gravitate more towards people, careers, and activities that resonate better with what you believe in.

Take responsibility for your own life. As you get older, you’ll find yourself leaning towards more long-term decisions, prioritising your time, and placing greater value on what truly matters. This allows for improved decision-making and a better understanding of the kinds of relationships and careers that align with your life goals.

Realise that everyone else is winging it too. Psychologist Susan Woodworth said she always thought that as you get older the more you know. “It seemed like people older than me always knew what to do. But as I became that older person I slowly began to realise that we’re all winging it and doing the best we can with what we know.” There’s a lot to gain from understanding that we’re all evolving, making mistakes, learning, and progressing.

Listen to Susan Woodworth’s full chat with Bec and Asa below.