Pastor Phil Ayres from Kingdomcity, joins Bec and Jeziel every fortnight to help couples build strong marriages.

In his book ‘His Needs Her Needs’, Williard F Harley Jr identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He suggests that each one of us has a love bank from which our spouse makes deposits and withdrawals. In the same way that a bank account gets healthy through depositing more than you withdraw, our love bank is exactly the same. Regular deposits ensure that the account stays in the black.

His Needs

Sexual Fulfilment: Can help them feel loved.
Recreational companionship: This involves a little work and lots of compromises. Finding and pursuing activities you both enjoy doing. That means one or both of you may have to stop doing a preferred activity to allow yourselves to bond together.
Physical Attraction: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may have a need to be with someone you find physically attractive and that your partner makes a serious effort to look attractive for you.
Domestic Support: The ability to keep a household and property in order and in sync with the needs of the marriage and growing family.
Admiration: Kind words, encouragement and recognition of effort. Just as kind words can make serious love unit deposits, harsh words and criticism make serious withdrawals.

Listen to the full conversation below.