Pastor Phil Ayres from Kingdomcity, joins us every fortnight to help couples build strong marriages. This week he wanted to talk about how to not wreck your marriage.

Last time, Pastor Phil explained that marriages go through different seasons, and relationships are always transitioning. Even though it might seem like nothing is changing at all. Every person will experience seasons of joy, sorrow, pressure, repetition and change. In relationships, there is the honeymoon season, early childhood, the family development pattern, teen years, and empty nesters.

Risk increases at the apex of whenever change is required for a couple to move forward into a new season. There is an opportunity to move in different directions and react in ways that draw us apart. The key here is taking time to reflect and be intentional about what is required from us to move forward together. But there are some things you shouldn’t do if you don’t want to wreck your marriage.

  1. Keep looking back and comparing the last season.
  2. Complain constantly about the changes and inconveniences of the new season.
  3. Make personal comfort your priority not your personal growth.
  4. Be intolerant to your spouse’s struggles.

Listen to Pastor Phil’s full chat with Bec and Asa below!